Therapy With Me 

My Approach

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Relationships can become painful not only because of what happens between two people, but because of the patterns each person brings into the room when things feel difficult, threatening, or emotionally charged.

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You may notice yourselves going round in the same loops - criticism and defensiveness, pursuit and withdrawal, shutdown and escalation - even when both of you want things to feel different.

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My work focuses on helping couples understand those patterns clearly, so that change becomes possible.

I use Relational Life Therapy (RLT) as the backbone of my work, alongside psychosexual therapy and somatic trauma approaches, to help couples develop greater honesty, emotional steadiness, and connection.

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This means we look at:

• what keeps happening between you

• what each of you does when you feel hurt, afraid, ashamed, or overwhelmed

• how old survival strategies may be shaping present-day conflict

• what it would take to respond differently

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I work actively and collaboratively. I am not a detached therapist sitting quietly on the side-lines while the same argument unfolds in the room. I will help you notice what is happening, interrupt patterns that are keeping you stuck, and support you to build new ways of relating.

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Where intimacy or sexual difficulties are part of the picture, we can work with those directly. Where trauma is affecting one or both of you, I may integrate somatic approaches, including Somatic EMDR where appropriate.

The aim of therapy is not to create a perfect relationship. It is to help you become more aware of what happens between you, take greater responsibility for your part, and build a relationship that feels more connected, resilient, and alive.

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Change is rarely instant, but it can be real. With the right support, couples can move out of entrenched cycles and into a more honest, skillful, and loving way of being together.